Security in a relationship is the foundation of a healthy relationship. In fact, it is usually a breach in security (actual or perceived), that leads to disconnection. Sometimes we may not even fully recognize that it is the security in our relationship that has weakened causing a lack of communication, not feeling seen or heard, or no longer feeling connected in the relationship. So you might be asking… how do you know if there is insecurity in your relationship? And what can you do to build security in your relationship? Read on to answer these questions and start improving your relationship today. 

Most couples can probably name a time or two, or twenty, that they had a fight that by the end didn’t make sense. What I mean is what started out as the dishwasher needing unloaded, what to watch on TV, or unattended socks on the floor somehow turned into a screaming match. What get couples into heated conflict but most of the time begins with what should be a simple interaction?? Enter, “the cycle.” The “cycle” is the predictable interactions between a couple that are rooted in attachment fears and pushed by relational methods of adaptation that are more suited for survival rather than connection.